Sunday, September 21, 2025

Remembrances of 911

It’s hard to believe that we’ve just passed the 24th anniversary of the 9/11 attacks. I suppose the reason I’m writing this is because I regret never asking my grandparents what they saw, felt, and lived through during the big events of their time. I don’t want to leave that same silence behind. Maybe one day you—or your children—will read this and want to know what I witnessed on that day.

On Sunday, September 10th, 2001, I had just returned from a conference in Indianapolis. The next morning, I was scheduled to meet a client, Chuck Cahn, on Long Beach Island. Chuck was a successful businessman in Cherry Hill and also the mayor of that town at the time. I left home around 8:15 a.m.

As I merged onto the turnpike in Willow Grove, a newsflash interrupted the radio: “A small, single-engine plane appears to have hit one of the Twin Towers in New York.” I remember thinking what a terrible mistake that must have been—maybe a pilot had suffered a medical emergency. It was about 8:50 a.m.

Not long after, as I exited the New Jersey Turnpike, the tone of the news changed. A second plane had struck. By then, it was obvious this was no accident. Just past McGuire Air Force Base, Chris called me and said, “Turn around and come home. This isn’t a small plane—it’s two commercial airliners. Something big is happening.”

I tried to reach Chuck, but the phone lines were already jammed. I decided to continue to the island, thinking he might already be there. As I drove down Route 72, fighter jets screamed overhead one after another. The sight and sound of them, streaking low and fast toward the coast, was unlike anything I’d ever seen.

When I reached Harvey Cedars, where the Cahns’ home was being built, the place was empty. I climbed up to the unfinished roof deck, which had a wide view of the horizon. Looking north toward New York, I saw it: a great plume of smoke rising into a clear, windless sky. Even from 145 miles away, it was visible, climbing what must have been ten thousand feet before dispersing. It felt impossible that something so devastating, so far away, could be so clearly seen.

I waited past our meeting time, still unable to place a call, and then drove to the Harvey Cedars firehouse. One of our employees, Nick, was also the fire chief there. Inside, he and several firefighters were glued to the television, watching the unimaginable unfold in real time. Outside, others were loading equipment onto a truck. I asked Nick what was happening. He said simply, “We’re heading to Manhattan. They need help with recovery.”

I drove home soon after. The roads were eerily empty. Cell phones were useless—lines were either down or overwhelmed. All I had was the radio, which I clung to the whole way back and in the days that followed.

A day or two later, I learned that firefighters were told to wait until they were called. They would assemble at Giants Stadium and then be transported into the city. They believed they were going for recovery work.

About a week later, I spoke with two of our other employees, Larry and Doug, both firefighters in Pennsylvania. Larry told me, with a heaviness in his voice, “There was no recovery.” He described streets in Lower Manhattan covered knee-deep in a fine, talcum-like powder. Buildings, furniture, people—everything had been pulverized into dust. His face, and Doug’s too, told me how deeply it marked them. It was a weight they carried long after that day.

What stays with me now, all these years later, isn’t only the shock of the day itself. It’s the silence of the skies after, the way time seemed to stand still, the look on the faces of those who had gone into the city and come back changed. It was a day when the world shifted.

If you’re reading this years from now, I hope you’ll take the time to ask the people in your life what they lived through—what they saw, what they felt. These stories matter. They carry the weight of history, but also the reminder that we endure, that even in loss we search for one another, and that memory is a way of honoring both.

Friday, September 19, 2025

Moving forward

Today, we sit 24 hours from an election that will change the way we see things, one way or the other. We will either end up with our first African-American president ever or the first woman vp in history.

Thursday, April 18, 2024

Finding work at a teenager

 After moving and living in Doylestown for about a year, as I approached the summer following my sophmore year at Central Bucks East my mother was pushing me pretty hard to find a summer job.  As a teen I was pushing back pretty hard to hang out with my friends, play baseball and go to the beach!

One morning, Mom came to me with the Help Wanted ads from the Daily Intelligencer with a ad to work at a woodshop doing general help, clean up and whatever else was needed.  I thought I might enjoy working with wood [that's what I thought I was responding to] so I called the number in the ad and was told to come to an interview the next day in New Hope, PA at Nakashima Woodworks.  I didnt drive yet so Mom ferried me the 20 minutes over to New Hope from Doylestown.  When I arrived, there was a cluster of buildings and no clear indication of where I should go.  After looking into a couple I found someone who directed to the office where I was told to enter and sit down.  It was a simple, but I recall it being cluttered space with a window that looked down a hillside toward a small pond.  After a few minutes a small older man entered and sat down.  He asked me why I was there, which threw me off, I said I was responding to his ad.  He nodded him head and said nothing for a few moments than slowly told me that he had a pond [yes, I can see it] and that he has ducks on the pond [right I see them as well] and that there is a snapping turtle in the pond [I did not see that].  He then stopped speaking for another few moments [I had no idea where this was going and although I considered myself adept at small talk, this was a variety of it I had not encountered].  After a few moments, my interviewer went on to add slowly that "the snapping turtle eats the ducks", another pause.  "I am sorry to hear that sir." My attempt to express empathy.  The older man slowly nodded his head, pauses another few moments.  "Would you catch and remove the snapping turtle?" came from him.    Now it is my turn to pause.  I responded that I was applying to work in the woodshop [unsaid was what I was thinking, "I am not applying to manage wildlife on your property"].

The older man rose and nodded to me and said, "thank you for coming".  I turned and left and felt alot like Daniel in The Karate Kid.  Daniel failed to understand for a while that he was being tested and trained by Mr. Miagi.  My Mr Miagi was actually George Nakashima, now, and at the time well-recognized by the world for his furniture making.  

Many years later, Mira Nakashima was attending an event at my church, where her son, daughter in law and grandson were parishioners.  I was speaking with Mira and mentioned my story to her and added that, "your father gave me a character test, and I'm afraid I failed it".  She smiled and told me that I was in good and plentiful company.  It took me years to understand that Mr Nakashima was testing me, it was an invaluable lesson that I wish I had learned earlier but in the end was very glad to have learned at all.

Tuesday, April 10, 2018

More than Trees

Sitting here working in the office at home, I can hear the constant buzz of chain saws busily slicing away at the problematic and dying Ash trees in my backyard; casualties of the Emerald Ash Borer.  I will miss the shade they provided on a hot summers day but most assuredly, I will NOT miss the dropping branches, the way the tree shed leaves when we would enter even a short rain drought or the fear that a large branch would fall as I sat on the patio staring at the night sky and I would meet an untimely demise.  


So why am I am suddenly depressed knowing that I am knocking a major task off my maintenance "to do" list?  I realize that I am seeing the last of the silent sentries that witnessed every moment of joy, pain and growth that my kids experienced in our backyard over the past 2+ decades.  The laughing, and screams of joy as well as the cries over dropped ice cream cones and protests over unfair treatment by a friend or sibling - they are all lovely memories for me after so many years.  I am watching friends and family in the form of trees taken away cut by cut and realizing that one more witness to my life will no longer be seen by me every time I look out my back window.  Not to be overly dramatic but I am witnessing the loss of a friend,  one I didn't always like (cleaning up the mess they would drop) but one I came to value even when we were not in agreement and now, I suddenly realize, one that shared a common history with me but sadly, also the ONLY one that witnessed each and every moment of  fun and games and growth my children experienced in their presence.  

Farewell, old friend, I will miss you but will never underestimate the time we spent together.

                                                                                                                                                                                                 

Saturday, April 5, 2014

The pace of life, at times, slows just enough to allow me to reflect and think beyond what I have to do in the next 10 minutes.  More and more weekends are providing me with that time and I really enjoy it.  This morning I arose early, the sun was shining the way it should on an early spring morning after a really harsh winter.  Amanda was away at Penn State, Chris was in Paris and Garrett was catching up on his sleep.  Coffee, music and reading were the order of the day for me.

After a bit I decided to begin breakfast.  Since there were quite a few things around that needed to be used by the end of the weekend I started to brown some onions and peppers and then chopped up potatoes to toss in as well.  They seemed lonely so I threw some bacon on as well and between the sounds of Steely Dan and bacon and onions crackling I was quite content.  It was quite soon that I realized that the comfort I found in this was directly tied to my Dad and memories of him cooking weekend breakfasts when I was a kid.  Although my Mom did most of the cooking there were a few things my Dad really reveled in and one of them was a good, hearty breakfast with fried potatoes, onions, peppers, bacon, eggs and English muffins.  He was a savant at orchestrating breakfast food on a large hot cook-top.  I can't help but smile at those memories when he would let my Mom sleep in late and take over the kitchen.  The only difference was that he would have Sinatra or Tony Bennett playing on the little radio we had in our kitchen but the pure joy in sharing those moments with him and my brother and sister was rekindled this morning as I made up breakfast.  Even though I was alone while I did it - the memory was so sweet I was right back there in our kitchen in Califon again.

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Time to hit the REFRESH button on attitude

I love to play golf. My scores don't reflect my passion for the sport or the enjoyment I get from it; but I love it! Each spring, once the weather and the ground warms I can't wait to break out my clubs, call my friends and head out to play.

 Usually, the first time I pick up the clubs I have been on a break from them for 4-5 months, maybe longer. One might expect that my game would be "rusty" or that I would play stiff and need to work all the kinks out of my swing and timing. It is exactly the opposite. My scores for my first few rounds each year are usually among the best I have all year. For years I kept asking myself why that was. I thought about it for a while and came to realize that after taking a break from the game I had forgotten all the bad habits I had worked myself into during the previous season. I didn't rush my swing or grip the club too tightly, or look up to quickly. My swing was relaxed, my timing good, and my enjoyment level high.

 Wouldn't it be great if we could just walk away from things in life we are finding difficult, reset our minds and go back in and be successful where before we'd experienced failure and frustration?

 It's easy to develop bad habits in business too, except you can't just walk away from sales and expect that the business will be there when you return and feel up to it again... A friend reminded me of a quote earlier today; Mohandas Gandhi is quoted as saying, “Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” - thanks for that reminder Ken, the past few years have been very tough in business - sales are hard to come by, profit margins low, client demands higher than ever. It has been easy to develop some bad habits to cope with all the adjustments necessary to keep cash flowing and clients happy. I immediately took this quote by Gandhi and set to work following it's instruction.

 I hit the REFRESH button on my attitude and will let the new year and new outlook trickle down into my words and actions. I do have high expectations for this year and am looking forward to meeting new clients, designing new projects and enjoying what I do. I'll encourage each of you to do the same and to make this year a great year!

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

If I weren't laughing I'd be crying

I have a profile on Linked In; a professional social network for those in business. In the early days of being a part of Linked In as I would talk to colleagues about it and encourage them to check it out I would tell them that it was like having an online resume that is working for you 7/24 and kept the world informed about you and up to date on what was happening in your business.

Part of putting together this "resume" is checking your spelling and making sure your grammar is correct and not writing things that might be construed by anyone as unprofessional. Well, I was checking out some updates by people I know and found a couple I found amusing and am sharing them here.



Holy Cow! How bad did he hate that job!



I just loved the irony in the second post!




Why do I suspect that these two friends will find mistakes I've made to exact revenge! All in good humor, take care.